Heading for the Hills

I apologize for not posting for a while, but thank you to those who have checked in. 

Yes, we still need prayer. 

Please keep praying for Karen. She nearly bled to death and was life-flighted to a better hospital. She is now receiving the care that was withheld from her. She is receiving radiation. It is making her very ill. Please pray she can eat and take her pain meds. 

I have been neck deep in pears for a few weeks now. Most of them are processed, but there are a few more on the trees. 

Clint is taking me to the mountains for some R and R. I might get to do some foraging too. No phones, no people, just us and nature. The last time we went, I saw two bears!! Even though I grew up in an area with frequent bear sightings, that is the first time I have ever seen one. Maybe this time, I can get a picture of a bear. 

I'll get back to work on the rest of the pears when I get home next week. My love to all!

Keep looking up..Jesus will be here soon!

Rudbeckia hirta aka Black Eyed Susans for Medicine

 

 A friend took me foraging last week! I was able to bring a few plants home for my garden. I cut the plants back to give them the best chance of survival. I will use the flowers and leaves for medicine.

These showy flowers are commonly planted in flowerbeds, but most gardeners do not realize it is a living first aid kit. Black-eyed Susan (BES), Rudbeckia hirta, is a member of the Aster family. While R. hirta has been less extensively studied, it can be used in many of the same ways as its more well-known cousin, Echinacea purpurea. The Southern Herbalist Darryl Patton stated in a class I took that he considers it a good substitute for echinacea. 

I have found one notable difference in my research. While Echinacea is an immunomodulator (balances and regulates the immune response), my research says Rudbeckia hirta is considered an immunostimulant (ramps up the immune response). One would use Echinacea over R. hirta when trying to calm a cytokine storm (exaggerated immune response to the point it is harmful to the body). People with immune system dysfunction would want to use wisdom and caution when using BESs for medicine. 

Black Eyed Susan has been used for colds, flus, upper respiratory infections, wounds, sores, skin infections, snake bites, mild inflammatory conditions (sore throats, swollen glands, muscle aches and stiffness, and burns), and to stimulate a weak immune response. While there is not much research, traditional folk medicine and Native American uses suggest that multiple Rudbeckia species were used similarly to R. hirta.

I have been studying and practicing herbal medicine and foraging for wild edibles since the early 1990s. My herbal education blends extensive self-directed study with formal training through two herbal schools, complemented by numerous classes and active engagement within the online herbal community. As a clinical herbalist and herbal educator, it is my joy and calling to help others discover the many benefits of the plants growing right beneath our feet. I encourage everyone to do their own research and always check for contraindications. -Wendy aka Wendy2Bear aka Mama Asbell

Triangle Orache aka Saltbush aka Atriplex spp

Triangle Orache (Atriplex prostrata) grows all over the US and other parts of the world. There are no toxic plants in the Atriplex genus. Atriplex is in the same family (Amaranthaceae) as the more commonly known wild edible, Lamb's Quarters. 

The young, tender leaves are delicious and salty, which is where it gets the nickname "Saltbush." Those little leaves never make it to the house to be used in a salad because I eat them right off the plant. The older leaves are tougher and bitter, but they are still OK to use in small amounts as a pot herb, in a mix of sauteed greens, or as part of a green powder. 

Like spinach, the older leaves of Atriplex are high in oxalates, so consuming them with calcium will help prevent absorption. I use stinging and wood nettles, which are very high in calcium, in my green powder mixes to reduce the amount of free oxalates. One could add cheese to a soup or salad to help bind the oxalates. 

Atriplex is a good source of Vitamins A and C, magnesium, iron, and calcium. My notes do not have a lot of medicinal information on this plant. I have PDFs of very old herbal texts showing, it has been used to treat digestive and kidney ailments, purify the blood, and has been used externally for bug bites, stings, tumors, etc. What I see is that it has been used mainly for food for humans and livestock.

I have been studying and practicing herbal medicine and foraging for wild edibles since the early 1990s. My herbal education blends extensive self-directed study with formal training through two herbal schools, complemented by numerous classes and active engagement within the online herbal community. As a clinical herbalist and herbal educator, it is my joy and calling to help others discover the many benefits of the plants growing right beneath our feet. I encourage everyone to do their own research and always check for contraindications. -Wendy aka Wendy2Bear aka Mama Asbell

Virginia Pepperweed aka Peppergrass

Peppergrass, primarily Lepidium virginicum L. (commonly called Virginia pepperweed), is another plant I use when I can find it. I've been munching on these since I was a child. This one was growing in a planter on my deck. It is a wild edible in the Brassicaceae (cabbage, radishes, cauliflower, broccoli, bok choy, turnip, etc) family. Its leaves, seeds, and young shoots are edible and were foraged by Native Americans and early settlers. The young greens are similar to arugula or watercress and are often added raw to salads or cooked as a pot herb (usually added to food that is cooked in a pot). The seeds can be ground as a pungent spice substitute, resembling a combination of mustard and black pepper. When harvested at the right time, it is tasty! The seeds need to be harvested while green because they lose flavor as they turn tan.

Lepidium virginicum has stimulating, diuretic, and expectorant medicinal effects. The whole plant, especially the seeds and aerial parts, was used in decoctions or tinctures to treat respiratory issues like coughs and asthma, as well as urinary tract problems. It has also been used to promote sweating in fevers, acting similarly to other mustard herbs. The Cherokee used it to "thin the blood" and relieve colds and congestion.

Peppergrass contains compounds which are known for their antimicrobial, antioxidant, and anti-inflammatory activities. Glucosinolates yield isothiocyanates which have been studied for potential anticancer properties. Some studies say the antibacterial properties of Lepidium species are effective against common pathogens. FYI, there are 158 pages of results on PubMed when you search "Lepidium."

I have been studying and practicing herbal medicine and foraging for wild edibles since the early 90s. As a practicing herbalist and herbal educator, it is my joyful mission to help others realize the many benefits of what is growing right under their feet.

Sweet Gum, Grape Leaves, Storax, Resveratrol, Viruses

A friend asked me about Sweet Gumballs. I figured I'd share this here in case it helps someone else:

If the sweet gumballs are not in season, you can use the leaves, stems, and inner bark to extract the antiviral properties. I learned that by listening to and taking notes from the old Tommy Bass videos. The gumballs have higher amounts of storax, but there is a moderate amount in the leaves, stems, and bark. Just use a higher herb-to-solvent ratio. The same is true with a lot of herbs. For example, higher amounts of resveratrol (antiviral) are in grape skins, but you can also get it from the leaves. 

Have you ever been sick and then there is a point where everything just gets worse...congestion becomes heavier, aches and pains increase a lot, fever is high and won't go down? Or you just can't get rid of it, and it lingers? That can be a mild to moderate cytokine response. Grape leaf tea will help calm that down. I pick them and dry them for that purpose. When the new crop of grape leaves comes in, I add the old ones to my green powder mix, since resveratrol is an antioxidant. 

There is a joyful noise in our home.

First, you should realize I have had children run to me with all manner of exciting nature finds, including snakes, big insects, and spiders. Brandon asked for a green snake, and I, thinking he'd never find one, said yes. Not too many weeks later, he ran inside with an arm and a slithery thing outstretched. I climbed the couch backward. Caleb has no fear of snakes.

There are many more stories, but know when a youngun' rushes towards me with something in their hands, I've learned to GIVE GROUND and ask questions later. So, when Emily came running in with a big bundle in her shirt, hoping for a reaction, she got one. I was bolting to the other side of the room before she could say 'TURKEYS!!"

She fell to the floor on her knees, laughing at me.

Mind you, I play back. I might get C-Dawg to help me with this one. It's joyful and fun in this home. I am very thankful for #6 and #7, who came later in my reproductive years and are such a tremendous blessing.

The Lord is faithful and leads us to good places...if we are willing to follow.

Being attacked for doing your best?

I wrote this to encourage a young friend of mine who is facing so much criticism and nastiness for starting a home-based business. She is a young mother trying very hard to help her family. Relatives and others are tearing her down and telling her she will not succeed, and are starting rumors that she is operating without a business license. 

If you are also facing a lot of hostility while trying to do something good, maybe this will encourage you:

The truth shines while the jealous whine. I've had those types of people in my life. Emphasis on "had." 

No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, and this is their vindication from me, declares the Lord. Isaiah 54:17

Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. Psalm 37:5-6

She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. Proverbs 31:25

False accusations don’t define you. God sees and honors the truth.

Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord. Romans 12:19

A lion doesn't lose sleep over the opinion of sheep.

Those who are mature in Christ like to see others succeed and encourage (build up) each other. They let go of grievances with others because of all Christ has forgiven them. They are more focused on growing and serving the Lord (themselves) than what others are doing. Destruction (tearing down) is the work of satan. Christians who have dealt with what you are facing should rally around you, encourage you, and help promote your business. Look at the ones helping you and encouraging you. THOSE are the relationships to focus on.

Abundant Mercy

In Ephesians 2, we are told He is RICH IN MERCY, 

and in Lamentations 3, we are told His mercies 

never come to an end. 

I am so very thankful for that!!

Happy July 4th!!

HAPPY 4th of July!

to our family and friends

near and far, 

old and new,

close and estranged

from The Asbell Family!

Thank You Father for making us American citizens and giving us the freedom, privileges, and responsibility you have blessed upon us!
May we conduct ourselves as worthy servants and bring YOU glory!

Dear Reader, Our world faces many challenges now and in the future, but I am still very thankful to be an American where I have experienced great freedom. No matter where you live, I hope you know the freedom that comes from knowing Christ.

John 8:36

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

A Heart that Loves Anyway

I thought this would be particularly comforting to my friends who live with this pain. These are not my words, but I felt they were worthy to share.

Dear You,

If no one has told you this today, let me be the first - what you're carrying is heavy.

And you shouldn't have to carry it alone. There's a particular kind of ache that comes from loving someone who doesn't seem to love you back.

Especially when that someone is your child.

Your grown child.

The one you once rocked to sleep.

The one you packed lunches for, worried over, and prayed for more times than you can count.

You loved them with your whole heart.

Still do.

But now they barely call.

Maybe they don't call at all.

Or when they do, it feels cold.

Distant.

Like you're strangers asking too many questions.

And it hurts more than you can put into words.

You wonder what you did wrong.

What you missed.

You replay moments from the past like old movies, hoping to find the scene where everything shifted.

You whisper apologies in your mind for things you didn't mean to say, or things you never got the chance to say at all.

You ask yourself, "was I too strict?"

"Was I too soft?" "Did I fail them somehow?"

You are not alone in asking these questions.

Many mothers carry them quietly, buried deep behind a polite smile or a brave face.

They look fine on the outside.

But inside, there's a wound that hasn't healed.

Because when your own child pulls away - or worse, shuts the door entirely - it feels like a piece of your soul is missing.

People don't talk about this kind of pain enough.

They talk about parenting toddlers, teenagers, even young adults.

But they don't often talk about the grief of parenting someone who no longer wants to be parented - who no longer wants you.

So you sit with the silence.

You smile when others talk about their family dinners or holiday visits.

You nod when they show off pictures from birthday parties you weren't invited to.

And all the while, your heart is quietly breaking.

I want you to know something.

This isn't your fault. Not entirely. Maybe not at all.

Parenting is not a perfect science.

It's messy and complicated and shaped by things outside your control.

Your child grew up with their own thoughts, their own experiences, their own interpretations of the world.

And sometimes, those interpretations don't match your memories.

Sometimes, their pain comes from a place you couldn't see.

Or from somewhere that has nothing to do with you at all.

That doesn't mean you didn't love them enough.

It doesn't mean you were a bad mother.

It means they're human.

And SO ARE YOU.

Maybe your relationshp became tangled somewhere along the way.

Too many words spoken in anger.

too many years of misunderstanding.

Or maybe, for reasons you'll never fully understand, they just chose to walk away.

And you were left behind with all your love and nowhere to put it.

It's okay to grieve that.

It's okay to feel the loss.

This isn't just disappointment - it's a heartbreak with no clear ending.

Because they're still out there.

Living their life.

And you are still here, wondering how someone you raised could forget how much you cared.

I know the world tells you to move on.

To accept it.

To keep your chin up.

But you don't have to pretend this doesn't hurt.

You don't have to hide the way you still check your phone, hoping today will be the day they text.

Or the way your eyes sting when you see a family that looks like what you always dreamed of.

You are allowed to feel everything you feel.

The sadness.

The confusion.

Even the anger. Especially the anger.

You gave so much of yourself. You offered your best, even when you were tired, even when you had nothing to left to give.

And somehow that wasn't enough fo them to stay close.

That's a kind of rejection no one prepares you for.

But please, don't let their silence rewrite the truth of who you are.

You are not unlovable.

You are not a failure.

You are not worthless.

You are a mother who loved deeply.

Who STILL does. And that love?

It doesn't disappear just because it wasn't returned.

Love isn't measured by the heart that gives it.

And your heart has always been full.

You might be asking yourself, "What do I do now?"

How far do you go on loving someone who's pulled so far away?

The answer is - gently.

You love yourself first.

You honor what you've been through.

You remind yourself that your life isn't over just because a relationship(s) is(are)broken.

There are still moments ahead for you.

Moments of laughter, joy, even peace.

Even if they don't come from your child.

You can still be loved. You can still find a connection.

It may come from friends, neighbors, nieces, or other mothers who know your pain.

It may come from people who see you, really see you, for all that you are.

And if that love shows up in a different shape than you expected, that's okay.

It's still real. It's still yours.

And maybe, one day, your child will find their way back.

Maybe they won't.

But either way, you don't have to keep your heart locked away.

You don't have to stop being the kind of person who loves deeply.

In fact, the world needs more people like you.

People who love even when it hurts.

People who keep showing up, even when no one claps for them.

People who still have hope, even when it flickers.

If today is hard, let it be hard.

If tears come, let them fall.

You've held it together for long enough.

And maybe, it's time to stop pretending you're fine when you're not.

You don't have to be strong every second.

You don't have to be the one who always understands.

You can be the one who is hurting.

The one who is healing.

The one who is still learning how to carry love that has nowhere to land.

There is something deeply beautiful about that kind of heart.

A heart that loves anyway.

That forgives without forgetting.

That hopes without demanding.

That grieves without giving up.

And that heart? That's yours.

Don't let anyone, not even your child, convince you it's not enough.

You ARE enough. Even in your pain. Even in your waiting.

Even in your wondering.

You are not invisible.

You are not forgotten.

And you are not alone.

There are so many women like you - quietly hurting, quietly loving, quietly hoping.

So if you ever feel like you're the only one carrying this kind of grief, remember this letter.

Remember that someone out there sees you. Someone understands the ache you don't always talk about.

And someone believes, without a doubt, that your love still matters.

YOU still matter.

Always.

(author unknown)

Healthy Boundaries in the Bible

Someone told a friend that her attitude about forgiving but not giving access to toxic people was not very forgiving or loving.

There is a lot of value to the Christian who searches the Bible about things like this. It might seem harsh to walk away from someone who is harmful to be around, whether that is physically, emotionally, or spiritually, but it is what the Bible teaches. The Bible is full of instances of setting healthy boundaries.

What is a toxic person? A toxic person is someone who consistently harms others physically, emotionally, spiritually, or mentally through manipulation, control, deceit, or disrespect. All of these traits are sinful (flesh).

It is very Biblical to not give access to people who are not behaving in healthy ways. There are more examples in the Bible we can find to give us guidance, but here are some.

Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared. Proverbs 22:24-25

As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him. Titus 3:10-11

People will be... abusive, slanderous, without self-control, brutal... having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. 2 Timothy 3:2-5

…If they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector. Mathew 18:15-17 (AVOID them!!!)

Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.' I Corinthians 15:33

But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler—not even to eat with such a one. I Corinthians 5:11 Immoral=sinful.

Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. Romans 16:17

A look at the Greek for the terms used on dissensions and hindrances is very eye-opening. Dissensions (dichostasiai) refer to: divisions, factions, separations caused by contentiousness or disunity, can be caused through conflict, drama, or cliques within the church, breaking fellowship and unity. Galatians 5 lists dissensions as a work of the flesh. Hindrances (skandala) refer to: stumbling blocks, traps, or things that cause others to sin or fall in their faith, can be caused through false teachings, legalism, manipulative behavior, or anything that causes believers to stumble spiritually or morally. Skandala is translated to "offenses" in some versions. Again, all of these behaviors are sinful (flesh).

Then we can look at the example Jesus set. While Jesus loved everyone, He didn't give everyone access to Himself. He practiced healthy detachment and spoke truth with grace. He walked away from crowds that wanted to harm him, rebuked people and left them, and let others leave without Him chasing after them.

This is a big topic and one could find more verses and examples, and could do word studies to go deeper. The Bible is very clear: You should not stay connected with those who are consistently harmful to your physical, spiritual, and emotional health. You can still forgive, pray for, and love people from a distance. The Bible teaches that healthy boundaries are not selfish—they are wise and God-honoring. They reflect God’s order, Jesus' example, and protect our ability to love well without being controlled or harmed.

I have followed the instruction in the Bible on this and have seen toxic people go away and godly people fill those spaces. I have seen turmoil and mental anguish leave and peace fill my life. Once one very controlling and manipulative person left my life, my spiritual growth took off in big ways. Until I got away from them, I had no idea how much they were hindering my spiritual life. I learned a valuable lesson through that and made a promise to myself to part ways sooner with anyone who behaved like them to avoid harming my relationship with Christ.

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If I were dining at a table with someone who was putting poison in people's drinking glasses, I would not remain at that table. I'd leave and leave everything on the table behind, too. Most people would feel that was the correct thing to do and would even encourage it because of the danger to the physical body. 

A toxic person is someone who is spreading poison, and it can be physical, emotional, or spiritual. It can be all or a combination of those. It can take some time to realize what they are doing, but when you do, you must get away from them for your well-being.

Grandparents

Caleb and Elora made us grandparents!

Fitzroy Atlas was born in early June.

We have not shared until now, so they could have time to tell everyone themselves.

Fitzroy is healthy and beautiful! We thanked Caleb and Elora for making us grandparents.

Common Horsetail aka Equisetum arvense

 

I am working with common horsetail today. Equisetum arvense, aka "horsetail," is known for its high silica content, which supports bone health, strengthens connective tissue, and promotes the growth of hair, skin, and nails. While most allopathic (conventional) diuretics flush minerals, especially potassium, magnesium, and sodium, along with excess water, horsetail acts as a mild diuretic while replenishing minerals, particularly potassium and silica. 

It is frequently used for urinary tract infections, bladder irritation, and kidney stones. Its astringent and wound-healing properties also make it a good choice for healing wounds, controlling bleeding, and reducing inflammation when applied topically. It is sometimes used to help osteoporosis, arthritis, or brittle nails due to its ability to help the body utilize calcium more effectively. 

30+ years ago, one of my herbal medicine instructors taught me how she used horsetail to keep her long hair after 60! I learned that horsetail is an ingredient in some of the popular hair growth formulas. The high silica content helps fortify hair follicles and hair strands from breakage and splitting, contributes to collagen production for healthy skin and scalp, which leads to healthy hair growth, and is believed to increase blood flow to the scalp, which helps nourish hair follicles. It also has antioxidants that lower inflammation and oxidative stress, which can contribute to hair loss. 

Raw horsetail should not be taken continuously because it contains small amounts of an enzyme called thiaminase. Thiaminase breaks down vitamin B1 (thiamine), which hinders its absorption. Studies in grazing animals show that consuming green or dried horsetail at about 20 % of dietary intake can cause thiamine deficiency in 2–5 weeks. But hold on, heat and alcohol destroy thiaminase, so a tea, syrup, or properly made tincture will not have active thiaminase. It is still recommended you take a break for a week or two every 2-4 weeks. As always, do your own research and check for contraindications. -Wendy aka Mama Asbell

Garlic Mustard Alliaria petiolata

Garlic Mustard, Alliaria petiolata, is a wild edible you can forage. It should not be confused with look-alikes. It was frequently grown as a pot herb and can be eaten fresh in salads or added to dishes to add flavor. It has been used to treat scurvy (antiscorbutic). Some say it has higher vitamin C than oranges! It is helpful to asthmatics, can be used as an antiseptic, and can be used to treat wounds and bug bites. It can also induce sweating to help cleanse the body's pathways or combat a fever. It is also a vermifuge. You can boil the leaves and stems in water, allow the water to cool, and pour it over where there are earthworms. Because it irritates their skin, they will surface, making it easy for you to collect them and invite me to go fishing! :-D I foraged this plant on a mountain hike while camping in WV. The next morning, this plant went into our omelets along with some Canadian Wood Nettle.

Cleavers aka Galium aparine

Cleavers, Galium aparine, are known for their lymphatic, diuretic, and anti-inflammatory (cooling) properties. Research shows Galium aparine stimulates the transformation of lymphocytes, a type of white blood cell, indicating potential immune-enhancing and cancer-fighting properties.  Cleavers have been used in Western herbal medicine for centuries and are still highly valued. 

Some of the conditions it can be used for:  Swollen lymph nodes, tonsillitis, mastitis, lymphedema, eczema, psoriasis, acne, abscesses, minor wounds, general immune enhancement, possible support in cancer prevention, fatigue, toxin buildup, post-illness recovery, and has had some limited, less documented use for mild anxiety and irritability.

Please keep praying

The weight of this spiritual warfare has landed so heavily upon me that my mind, body, and soul shut down for several days. 

I lost track of time (hours, days) and have barely been functioning. After the heavy stress load from so much this last year, I think this reaction was a protective measure to keep me from having a mental breakdown. It's starting to lift, but I'm not fully over it. In all of the things I have been through, I have never had a reaction like this. 

We've received some very disturbing news on two fronts and had to accept some hard truths. 

All I have been able to do is cry out to the Lord for strength to get up and fight. Please keep us in prayer as we seek the Lord.

Mobile RV Repair

My son, Caleb, has launched a licensed and insured mobile RV repair business serving Virginia, North Carolina, Delaware, and West Virginia. He provides convenient, on-site repairs and maintenance. Caleb and his wife, Elora, are also expecting their first child any day now, so your support means the world to them. If you or anyone you know needs RV service in those areas, he'd truly appreciate your referrals.

Greenbrier Smilax rotundifolia

Greenbrier, Smilax rotundifolia. Ive been eating this plant for years. PULL on the new tips and they will break off in the right place much like asparagus will when you bend it. Raw, they taste a little like a green bean. They can be eaten raw or cooked. We eat them as we hike, etc. They are better when about 6" or under. All parts are edible including the berries. It also has valuable medicinal properties and can be used for weaving, fish hooks, light use cordage, wildlife barriers around gardens, and to make biochar. Grows abundantly in most areas of eastern North America.

Cliff Notes for Osteoarthritis

A client asked me for some research guidance for her father's OA. This is what I sent her. I am sharing it here to help others. My love to all! -Mama Asbell

Osteoarthritis 

Goals: reduce inflammation,  improve lubrication,  support any remaining cartilage,  promote comfort, help cushion joints by improving joint fluids, and relieve pain.

Herbs: Turmeric (reduces cartilage wear), boswellia serrata (reduces joint inflammation, protects remaining cartilage), willow bark, ginger (some studies say ot works as well as ibuprofen), other anti-inflammatory herbs.

Glucosamine and chondroitin sulfate, MSM, omega 3, type 2 collagen, Vit D (deficiency worsens OA) (research how much you can safely take--much, much higher than what we are being told), hyaluronic acid, stay hydrated. 

Dehydration is very common in older folks and causes a wide range of problems. For OA: eed enough fluid to keep joints well hydrated.

Red light therapy (Amazon), Rezzimax Pro Tuner II (I'm enrolled in a class on this) helps relieve chronic pain by targeting the Vagus nerve and affects pain perception, follow an anti-inflammatory diet, hot cold therapy, joint supporting devices, vibrating heating pad (brings blood flow to area, disrupts pain signals, improves flexibility,  relaxes tight muscles, increases lymphatic drainage, etc).

Do your own research. Carefully check for contraindications.

Prayer Please

 Please pray for my family. Heavy spiritual warfare. Weariness. Thank you!

Another Grandchild to Love and to Pray For

Joshua and Jurnee hid this in a little treasure chest I gave Joshua years ago. He gave it to me on Mother's Day. Clint and I will welcome our second grandchild in December. Because of a blood test, we already know the baby is a boy. We know his name, but we will keep that to ourselves so the parents can announce it at the time of their choosing. Joshua proposed to Jurnee today, too, so there is another wedding in our near future.

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord,
The fruit of the womb is a reward.
Psalm 127:3

Shared with a friend recently...

"I unintentionally experimented with prayers for travel recently. I learned the prayers of my friends make a big difference on the road."

How to Help a Grieving Friend

 I keep sharing this because so many have told me it has helped them on both sides of the table in different types of grief including divorce. 

Repost from 10/15/2018: This post has helped a lot of people on both sides of the coin and has been printed as a handout.

Believe me, it's no time for words when the wounds are fresh and bleeding; no time for homilies when the lightning's shaft has smitten, and the man lies stunned and stricken. Then let the comforter be silent; let him sustain by his presence, not by his preaching; by his sympathetic silence, not by his speech. -George C. Lorimer

October 15 is the national day of remembrance for miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss. I've lost nine precious babies to stillbirth and miscarriage. Much of what you read here can be applied more broadly to include other types of loss and pain.

Here is a video from Megan Devine, which a friend recently shared, that shares about what works for those grieving and why other things like "cheering them up" do not. It will better equip you to help the hurting in your life.

When I lost one of my miscarried and stillborn babies, one of the things that helped me the most was someone telling me, "This sucks!!" I knew by their succinct words that they understood my pain. You don't need eloquence to show compassion. Your job isn't to move them to where you want them to be; it's to meet them where they are.

One of the most hurtful things ever said to me, for example, was by a Christian in law who claimed to be pro-life who told me less than 24 hours after the loss of my baby that crying was "feeling sorry for myself." Their words created a lot of pain in my heart. They did not care what I was going through, and their words showed it. Their words suggested I was doing something wrong by mourning my baby. I share this with the goal that others won't say such hurtful things in a woman's time of great pain. It is not helpful, but it is very hurtful. 

Crying is a normal, natural response to loss. Jesus cried in grief too. Would you have said, "It's self pity for you to cry since you are going to raise Lazarus anyway?" Or, would you have shown Him understanding and compassion? Think before you speak. Words hurt and can't be taken back, but they can be forgiven. Be gentle and kind with each other even when you do not understand what the other person is going through.

Please don't add your misplaced expectations to someone else's struggle. You will only burden them further. Acknowledge a person's right to feel as they do. 

If you have had a pregnancy loss, I am praying for you today and offer my friendship. My email is in the header. 

A pharisee is hard on others and easy on himself, 
but a spiritual man is easy on others and hard on himself.
-A.W. Tozer

I had a friend comment:

That person that said that to you COULD NOT be a Christian! They may be a self proclaimed Christian, but if they really had Christ in their heart they could have never said something so cruel and cold! 

My reply: Christians aren't perfect, and we fail each other often. We have to bear with each other in love to keep unity in the church. I have forgiven them completely and have love for them. Grudges lead to bitterness and that's a weed I don't want growing in my life. It's too destructive! I pray for their well being and success of their business daily. Doing that honors Jesus and gives me peace and keeps me growing in Christ. Their words are a good example to show others what not to say to someone because it does not in any way help. It creates another burden on the person. If we claim to be pro-life, but deny a mother the freedom to mourn a pregnancy loss, we really aren't very pro-life. We have to come beside people and meet them where they are in whatever circumstance life throws at them...not drag them along to where we want them to be. I fail people too and am thankful when they forgive me and bear with me in love.

Call Upon the Lord in the Midst of Your Sorrow

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. Psalm 34:18

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. Isaiah 41:10

He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds. He telleth the number of the stars; he calleth them all by their names. Great is our Lord, and of great power: his understanding is infinite. Psalm 147:3-5

Bless the Lord, O my soul: and all that is within me, bless his holy name. Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits: Psalm 103:1-2

This Happened Yesterday

Hannah passed her test and received her learner's permit.
Clint let her drive home.

Update on Karen: Please Pray

Currently, Karen is unable to swallow, which means she cannot take her pain pills. Her pain is extreme. The dysphagia could possibly be a side effect of the very strong antibiotic she is on.

She posted this on her FB. "I'm definitely in the middle of the battle. I'm struggling to survive infection again, and days of waiting for antibiotics against the sepsis-causing bacteria (started on topical antibiotics again.) I'm also not sure if each day is the last, but I long to live and I long to die. I keep praying for any word The Lord would have me share. The best word I can give is to keep serving Him. In the days of many children and being a wife, you don't think it will come to an end. It will! As Joe so tenderly cares for me it reminds me of the days I prepared for him, cooking or taking care of our Littles. I see his tender hands and heart cleaning my wound, holding my hand as I cry out in agony 💔, and watching his face with the sorrow that's hidden away as best he can, that I wouldn't grieve that this is hurting him so deeply. God has given us 41 Years together to be shaped into His Image through this life of marriage and eight Children! For every day I am so grateful!"

Please pray she can get some pain relief. It is extreme. Please pray for her husand's strength and for the Lord to lead him to the best things to do to help her. Please pray for Malcolm as he shoulders the weight of the workload of their farm which is their income. Please pray for Myles as he continues to have GM seizures. Please ask the Lord to give me words to encourage, uplift, and show His love to her in the midst of another extreme battle.

Update on Brandon and Wendy

Brandon's fever has left, and his pain has gone away. We have no idea what was going on with him.

My rib has stayed put. I guess it's decided not to give me the slip. :-) 

Thank you all for asking and praying. 

Alzheimer's: A Physician Caused Disease article

https://www.cachevalleydaily.com/news/local/wallach-alzheimer-s-a-physician-caused-disease/article_dfdc05a2-9297-5c35-bf16-9816d5472d43.html 

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How to Detox from CT Scan Iodine

 It was asked in one of my groups, so I am sharing my answer here:

"Iodine contrast leaves the body in most people within 24-48 hours. In people with kidney issues, it can take two weeks. The iodine is excreted in urine, so plenty of hydration along with herbs that support the kidneys, liver, and lymphatic system. I recently had a CT. I used milk thistle and burdock root. Other good choices would be dandelion root, red clover, nettles, etc. I worked up a good sweat, have been eating plenty of fiber, and have been exercising. You can also treat the symptoms of your reaction (hives/rash-antihistamine herbs like nettle), but you should notify your doctor and let them know you are having a reaction, if you have not done so."

I said, "Yes."

So, I am in the ER, in the kind of pain the doctors thought was a kidney stone, 

...and this guy asks me if I want to play doctor with him.

I'd marry him again.

As of this month, we have been a couple for 39 years.

Happy Easter 2025!

  Happy Eas✞er!

to our family and friends

near and far, 

old and new,

close and estranged

from The Asbell Family!

Dear Reader, As we observe Easter, let us examine ourselves and truly see weak areas that need to be strengthened so we can increase our testimony. Let us live like we truly experience the redemptive love the Father has for us. He offered His only Son.

Father, we ask that You show us our hearts and convict us of where we need to work so we can become brighter testimonies of Your love. Please help us to become resolved to make the changes in ourselves as necessary. Thank You for Jesus and for loving us so very much!

My love to all!

Therefore, brothers,

since we have confidence to enter the holy places

by the blood of Jesus, by the new and living way that he opened for us

through the curtain, that is, through his flesh,

and since we have a great priest over the house of God,

let us draw near with a true heart

in full assurance of faith,

with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience

and our bodies washed with pure water.

Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering,

for he who promised is faithful.

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works,

not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some,

but encouraging one another,

and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.

Hebrews 10:19-25

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Update on Brandon and Me

Brandon arrived home safely yesterday. He was very tired and went right to bed, so I did not get to see him. He is still running a fever and still has the pain in his abdomen. The pain is no worse. 

While washing dishes yesterday, my rib popped back into place as I stretched to reach a pot. I had the lidocaine patch on, so it was not painful. It was a pop and a shift. It was creepy and cool at the same time. When the patch wore off, there was very little pain. I could move like normal. It was wonderful!

Around midnight, I came fully away very suddenly. The rib had slipped out again!! Oh, it hurt! My groaning woke up Clint. He put another one of those "mercy patches" on me. It wore off at 12 noon. I have a slight pain, so I guess the rib is back in its proper place again. 

Since nothing came back on the scans and my blood work and urine was fine, I figured it has to be something mechanical. When I was researching "musculoskeletal pain that feels like gallbladder or kidney stones," it says this slippery rib pain mimics gallbladder, kidney stones, or a broken rib. I have now put those on my list of things to never try. I have "slipping rib" under things to never do again. I've had babies naturally. I've walked around with broken bones in my foot. I have a good pain tolerance. This makes me make noise and grab hold of things to steady myself as I walk.