"it’s about allowing these families to remember their losses and not bury their grief. There was an old way of thinking that didn’t let mothers and fathers say the names of these babies, but like Eure said, that’s the old way. “It was something that people pushed under the rug,” she said. “We’re really trying to get (rid of) that way of thinking. These babies need to be remembered." read more here
If you are going to fight for the rights of the unborn, then you should, at the very least, be able to compassionately acknowledge the right to grieve and minister to the parents who lost their babies to miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss.
I had family show more sorrow and grief over the loss of my dog than they did their own flesh and blood lost to miscarriage and stillbirth.
Open your eyes people, and minister to the hurting souls around you! Stop forcing people to hide their pain from you. You can help, or you can hinder. I've had too many people hinder me and the women I've talked to about this to not speak up.
If we claim to be pro-life, but deny a mother the freedom to mourn a pregnancy loss, we really aren't very pro-life. We have to come beside people and meet them where they are in whatever circumstance life throws at them...not drag them along to where we want them to be.
This is Biblically supported by Romans 12:15. Notice God did not put quantifiers...Weep with them, but only if you feel it is justified to weep. Weep with them until you think they should be over it. Weep with them for a month and then force them to be happy again so you feel better.
To me, the Bible seems very clear:
If someone is grieving, acknowledge and minister to them in their grief, whatever it is. You are ministering to their soul by acknowledging the event and their right to have those emotions.
How to Be a Friend to the Hurting has an embedded video that is very helpful in understanding grief and how to help those walking in it.
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
Romans 12:15
